{"id":23868,"date":"2024-06-13T22:32:48","date_gmt":"2024-06-14T04:32:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.gandaculdecolorado.com\/?p=23868"},"modified":"2024-06-13T22:32:48","modified_gmt":"2024-06-14T04:32:48","slug":"esti-anxios-in-relatii-cum-poti-sa-ti-schimbi-stilul-de-atasament","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.gandaculdecolorado.com\/esti-anxios-in-relatii-cum-poti-sa-ti-schimbi-stilul-de-atasament\/","title":{"rendered":"E\u0218TI ANXIOS \u00ceN RELA\u021aII?  CUM PO\u021aI S\u0102-\u021aI SCHIMBI STILUL DE ATA\u0218AMENT"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><b>Rela\u021biile ar trebui s\u0103 fie o surs\u0103 de lini\u0219te \u0219i sprijin, asta dac\u0103 anxietatea\u00a0 nu te \u00eempiedic\u0103 s\u0103 te bucuri pe deplin de ceea ce tr\u0103ie\u0219ti sau ai putea tr\u0103i. Anxietatea poate duce la sentimente constante de nesiguran\u021b\u0103, team\u0103 de abandon \u0219i nevoia de reasigurare continu\u0103.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">O teorie dezvoltat\u0103 la mijlocul secolului 20 de psihanalisul John Bowlby, a ajuns ast\u0103zi o piatr\u0103 de temelie \u00een psihologia rela\u021biilor. Teoria ata\u0219amentului explic\u0103 perfect de ce anumi\u021bi oameni sunt mai anxio\u0219i dec\u00e2t al\u021bii \u00een rela\u021bii sau de ce le este mai greu s\u0103 lege parteneriate pe termen lung.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Angela Nu\u021bu, psihoterapeut \u0219i coach: \u201c <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Amintirile \u0219i experien\u021bele din copil\u0103rie sunt unice \u0219i intime. Adesea, acestea influen\u021beaz\u0103 modul \u00een care func\u021bionezi ca adult. Stilurile de ata\u0219ament reprezint\u0103 o \u00eentreag\u0103 teorie \u0219i o abordare psihoterapeutic\u0103 care a devenit \u0219i o metod\u0103 practic\u0103 pe care o po\u021bi folosi cu prec\u0103dere pentru rezolvarea problemelor \u00een rela\u021bii \u0219i cre\u0219terea \u00eencrederii \u00een sine.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Stilul nostru de ata\u0219ament ne influen\u021beaz\u0103 \u0219i ne afecteaz\u0103 via\u021ba emo\u021bional\u0103 \u00een \u00eentregime, de la alegerea partenerului de via\u021b\u0103, a prietenilor, a grupului social, p\u00e2n\u0103 la c\u00e2t de bine progreseaz\u0103 rela\u021biile noastre cu ei \u0219i, din p\u0103cate, cum se termin\u0103.De aceea recunoa\u0219terea modelului nostru de ata\u0219ament ne poate ajuta s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegem punctele forte \u0219i vulnerabilit\u0103\u021bile \u00een orice tip rela\u021bie vrem s\u0103 construim, s\u0103 men\u021binem sau s\u0103 cre\u0219tem.\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Exist\u0103 trei tipuri de ata\u0219ament, \u0219i fiecare dintre noi are caracteristici din toate cele trei, \u00eens\u0103 doar una dintre ele este predominant\u0103.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Ata\u0219ament securizat<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: O persoan\u0103 cu stil de ata\u0219ament securizat are abilitatea de a-\u0219i identifica \u0219i de a-\u0219i exprima deschis \u0219i clar nevoile \u0219i dorin\u021bele, con\u0219tientizeaz\u0103 c\u0103 \u0219i cel\u0103lalt are nevoi \u0219i faciliteaz\u0103 comunicarea, are abilit\u0103\u021bi foarte bune \u00een a gestiona conflictele, astfel \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 permit\u0103 ajust\u0103ri \u00een rela\u021bie, dar f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 se supere excesiv.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Ata\u0219ament evitant:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Un adult cu stil de ata\u0219ament evitant consider\u0103 c\u0103 intimitatea duce la pierderea independen\u021bei \u0219i din acest motiv va alege deseori s\u0103 fie autonom \u0219i s\u0103 nu \u00ee\u0219i ia angajamentul pentru o rela\u021bie de cuplu autentic\u0103. De\u0219i \u00ee\u0219i dore\u0219te intimitatea, totu\u0219i prea mult\u0103 apropiere \u00eel st\u00e2njene\u0219te \u0219i \u00eel face s\u0103 \u021bin\u0103 partenerul la o distan\u021b\u0103 confortabil\u0103.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Ata\u0219ament anxios:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Un adult cu un stil de ata\u0219ament anxios simte constant presiunea fricii de abandon. Astfel c\u0103 \u00een permanen\u021b\u0103 caut\u0103 s\u0103 fie foarte apropiat de partener, dar se teme totodat\u0103 c\u0103 partenerul nu dore\u0219te \u0219i el tot at\u00e2t de mult\u0103 apropiere. Din acest motiv va fi foarte atent la nevoile, emo\u021biile \u0219i dorin\u021bele partenerului \u0219i se consider\u0103 responsabil de starea de bine a celuilalt.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Aceast\u0103 hipervigilen\u021b\u0103 continu\u0103 duce la multe emo\u021bii \u0219i la sup\u0103r\u0103ri frecvente, la conflicte \u0219i jocuri psihologice, ce au ca scop s\u0103 \u021bin\u0103 rela\u021bia aproape. Dar cu ce cost?!<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00cen rela\u021bii poate p\u0103rea disperat, nesigur, solicitant, posesiv, gelos, dorind s\u0103 controleze partenerul. Are nevoie de reasigurare constant\u0103, dore\u0219te fie s\u0103 fac\u0103 totul \u00eempreun\u0103, fie s\u0103 trimit\u0103 mesaje toat\u0103 ziua dac\u0103 nu se vede cu partenerul.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Acum c\u0103 ai \u00een\u021beles de e\u0219ti anxios \u00een rela\u021bii, apare \u00eentrebarea: <\/span><b>se poate schimba stilul de ata\u0219ament?\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Vestea bun\u0103 este c\u0103 po\u021bi face tranzi\u021bia de la un stil de ata\u0219ament anxios la unul mai sigur. Iat\u0103 c\u00e2teva solu\u021bii practice pe care le po\u021bi aplica imediat:<\/span><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li><b> Identific\u0103-\u021bi stilul de ata\u0219ament<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pentru a \u00eencepe, este important s\u0103 recuno\u0219ti \u0219i s\u0103 accep\u021bi c\u0103 ai un stil de ata\u0219ament anxios. Po\u021bi face acest lucru discut\u00e2nd cu un terapeut sau complet\u00e2nd un chestionar de autoevaluare, pe care \u00eel g\u0103se\u0219ti foarte u\u0219or pe internet.<\/span><\/p>\n<ol start=\"2\">\n<li><b> \u00cenva\u021b\u0103 de la oameni cu ata\u0219ament sigur<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Petrece mai mult timp cu persoane care au un stil de ata\u0219ament sigur. Observ\u0103 cum \u00eentre\u021bin rela\u021bii cu \u00eencredere \u0219i stabilitate. \u00cenv\u0103\u021barea prin observa\u021bie te poate ajuta s\u0103 adop\u021bi comportamente mai s\u0103n\u0103toase.<\/span><\/p>\n<ol start=\"3\">\n<li><b> \u021aine un jurnal al emo\u021biilor<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Noteaz\u0103-\u021bi emo\u021biile \u0219i g\u00e2ndurile legate de rela\u021biile tale. Acest exerci\u021biu te poate ajuta s\u0103 identifici tiparele nesigure \u0219i s\u0103 lucrezi activ pentru a le schimba. De exemplu:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Identific\u0103-\u021bi emo\u021biile recurente<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: Noteaz\u0103-\u021bi emo\u021biile care apar c\u00e2nd te g\u00e2nde\u0219ti la rela\u021biile tale. Observ\u0103 dac\u0103 sim\u021bi adesea c\u0103 nu e\u0219ti suficient de iubit sau apreciat.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00cenregistreaz\u0103 dovezile:<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Dup\u0103 ce identifici emo\u021biile recurente, noteaz\u0103 dovezile care le sus\u021bin sau le contrazic. De exemplu, analizeaz\u0103 comportamentele partenerului t\u0103u pentru a vedea dac\u0103 exist\u0103 dovezi reale c\u0103 nu te iube\u0219te sau, dimpotriv\u0103, c\u0103 te iube\u0219te.<\/span><\/p>\n<ol start=\"4\">\n<li><b> Comunic\u0103 deschis<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Exprim\u0103-\u021bi clar \u0219i deschis sentimentele \u0219i nevoile. Comunicarea direct\u0103 poate ajuta la crearea unui mediu de \u00eencredere \u0219i siguran\u021b\u0103 \u00een rela\u021bia ta. Asigur\u0103-te c\u0103 discu\u021bi despre:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sentimentele tale<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: Spune-i partenerului cum te sim\u021bi \u00eentr-un mod calm \u0219i f\u0103r\u0103 acuza\u021bii.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Nevoile tale<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: Fii specific despre ceea ce ai nevoie pentru a te sim\u021bi mai sigur \u00een rela\u021bie.<\/span><\/p>\n<ol start=\"5\">\n<li><b> Lucreaz\u0103 cu un terapeut<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Un terapeut te poate ghida prin procesul de schimbare a stilului de ata\u0219ament. Terapia poate oferi instrumente \u0219i strategii pentru a te sim\u021bi mai bine \u00een rela\u021bii \u0219i pentru a dezvolta un stil de ata\u0219ament mai sigur.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201e<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dac\u0103 te reg\u0103se\u0219ti \u00een comportamentele descrise mai sus \u0219i observi c\u0103 te temi constant de abandon, ai nevoie de reasigur\u0103ri frecvente \u0219i e\u0219ti sensibil la semnele de respingere, este posibil s\u0103 ai un stil de ata\u0219ament anxios. Autoevaluarea \u0219i discu\u021biile cu un profesionist \u00een s\u0103n\u0103tate mintal\u0103 te pot ajuta s\u0103 confirmi acest lucru \u0219i s\u0103 g\u0103se\u0219ti modalit\u0103\u021bi de a face schimb\u0103ri pozitive<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.\u201d<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">concluzioneaz\u0103 Angela Nu\u021bu.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A\u0219adar, schimbarea stilului de ata\u0219ament este posibil\u0103, dar necesit\u0103 munc\u0103 \u0219i perseveren\u021b\u0103. Prin identificarea stilului t\u0103u actual, \u00eenv\u0103\u021barea de la al\u021bii, reflec\u021bie \u0219i comunicare deschis\u0103, po\u021bi \u00eencepe s\u0103 faci pa\u0219i spre rela\u021bii mai sigure \u0219i mai fericite. Po\u021bi s\u0103 scapi de anxietate \u0219i s\u0103 ai rela\u021bii mai bune, care s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi aduc\u0103 fericire \u0219i \u00eemplinire.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Angela Nu\u021bu este Psihoterapeut \u0219i unul dintre cei mai cunoscu\u0163i \u015fi bine preg\u0103ti\u0163i traineri din Rom\u00e2nia, Vicepre\u015fedinte al Asocia\u0163iei Rom\u00e2ne de Hipnoz\u0103. Are experien\u021b\u0103 de peste 10 ani \u00een domeniul comunic\u0103rii \u0219i al instruirii adul\u021bilor \u0219i de peste 15 ani \u00een domeniul antreprenoriatului \u0219i al afacerilor. Membru Fondator al Asocia\u021biei Rom\u00e2ne de Coaching, Formator acreditat ANC, Trainer acreditat NLP \u0219i\u00a0 Psihoterapeut.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><b>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;<\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>Angela NU\u021aU<\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>Psihoterapeut<\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>0720.071.016<\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>contact@putereamintii.ro<\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>10 iunie 2024 <\/b><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Rela\u021biile ar trebui s\u0103 fie o surs\u0103 de lini\u0219te \u0219i sprijin, asta dac\u0103 anxietatea\u00a0 nu te \u00eempiedic\u0103 s\u0103 te bucuri pe deplin de ceea ce tr\u0103ie\u0219ti sau ai putea tr\u0103i. Anxietatea poate duce la sentimente constante de nesiguran\u021b\u0103, team\u0103 de abandon \u0219i nevoia de reasigurare continu\u0103. 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